by Brittany Rust
A Gift from the Lord
Children are without a doubt a blessing from the Lord. It’s amazing how new additions to the family awaken, rejuvenate, and sometimes even bring healing. I’ve watched babies bring a tidal wave of joy to a family and increase the love tank exponentially.
If you’re reading this, you’re likely expecting your own bundle of joy! You’re probably experiencing a flood of emotions: excitement, anticipation, anxiousness, fear, and much more. All are completely normal!
First and foremost, your child was planned to be on the earth at this very moment by God before time even began. even now, God is knitting your baby together in your womb very carefully and purposefully. The Father has a special plan designed for your little one and with your prayers and guidance, there are no limits to how he or she will be used.
Pregnancy can be hard but in those moments, remember the gift that your child is. Celebrate his or her presence and purpose on this earth!
When Emotions are a Rollercoaster
Pregnancy takes us all on an emotional rollercoaster; even the husbands! As our hormones change and fluctuate, how we feel can change moment to moment.
I remember one time I got little sleep and woke really sore. As I began making breakfast and my dog sat at my feet, I instantly got annoyed with her and yelled at her to skedaddle. Then my husband came down and as we ate scrambled eggs, he asked me about something we had already talked about multiple times that week and I snapped at him. I mean, how could he not remember?! I immediately felt bad and knew he didn’t deserve the bad end of my morning grumpiness.
The emotions you experience throughout pregnancy can seem intense and early on, a bit unfamiliar. It’s completely normal to go through these changes and in some ways, the expression of emotions can be healthy.
However, you must be careful to not let grumpiness, anger, or dissatisfaction lead your actions. It’s wise for you to learn to control your emotions and rule your feelings instead of the other way around.
When pregnancy and the reality of caring for another human being has set in, you might experience a host of anxieties. It’s natural for both parents to experience this at different points throughout the pregnancy but it’s also important to learn how to navigate the emotion.
Some areas you might become anxious in, if you haven’t already, is in parenting itself. There’s no doubt you want to steward this gift well but perhaps you’re not sure if you will because your own example wasn’t great. You might also be anxious about the delivery of your baby, their future, and the finances to make it all happen. There’s no shortage of anxieties for a parent!
Philippians 4 encourages us all in many situations but I believe it’s a particularly helpful verse for parents because let’s be honest, anxiety comes with the territory. However, it doesn’t mean we’re suppose to live there.
If you find yourself becoming anxious about any of the above, or perhaps something else, turn to this verse. Find direction here to turn to prayer and thanksgiving as a refuge from your anxieties. Find peace here, in the presence of God and away from the worries, to carry you through these moments. Anxiety might be an easy place to go as a parent but don’t allow it to take your focus off of the Father.
Anxiety, if left unchecked, can snowball into fear, which is a dark place to live. It can be especially draining in a season that should be filled with wonder and excitement.
I get it though. Sometimes when you feel a cramp, or don’t feel the baby move for a few hours, or think about how you’re going to afford childcare, fear can set in. I’ve had moments on my own 40 week journey and as a parent, there’s a whole new level of concern for another that enters your life.
I would encourage you not to live in fear. You might experience small moments or glimpses of it but don’t let the fear overwhelm you. Don’t let it steal your joy.
Remember, God is your strength and He will uphold you. God is on your side and has the best for you in His heart. Lean into His strength and peace when worry and fear starts to creep in. That is your safe place and your refuge.
When Weariness Sets In
You’re going to experience a level of weariness you’ve probably never experienced before. Days you’re so tired you have to take an afternoon nap. This happens in the first and third trimester, girls! Moments you feel so nauseous that the only place you want to be is lying on a bed in the dark. Evenings when your feet are so sore, ankles so swollen, and back so achy that labor can’t come soon enough.
What I’m trying to say is we all experience weariness at some level. And the emotions we talked about don’t help either. There will be days when you feel like you’re hanging on by a thread and honestly, that’s completely normal so don’t beat yourself up. Give yourself grace each day because you know what, you're growing a human inside of you!
2 Corinthians 12:9 is a verse I lean on often, not just in pregnancy. There’s so much comfort and peace in knowing that God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness. On those days when you’re tired and in pain--when you’re operating out of weakness--ask God for strength.
Confide in Him that you don’t know if you have the energy to extend kindness to people, or to get through a day of work, or to be patient with your spouse. If you can admit those things to Him and ask for His help, He’ll extend a supernatural strength to you that will carry you through your weariness.
Keeping a Priority on Your Marriage
If you’re married, you’re experiencing one of the greatest gifts in the world. I do want to be sensitive to those who may not be though, and to you I say I have incredible respect for you. Pregnancy is hard and parenting significantly more even with a spouse; with someone there to lean on. To those beautiful ladies making the journey alone, I honor you. You’re a superhero in my book!
To this ladies who are married, don’t take it for granted. Your days can be long and hard sometimes but a husband can be such great support in this journey.
Don’t be afraid to share your emotions and struggles with your spouse. There were times I wouldn’t share something with my husband because I was embarrassed or didn’t want to burden him, or I would hold something in and snap at him. My husband would then so graciously just ask me to share those things with him. He wanted to know and share in what I was experiencing (and he certainly didn’t like being snapped at!).
Communication is key in marriage and that becomes even more important as your family expands. If this has been a struggle for your marriage, or you’re noticing it could be improved, now is a great time to grow in this area. It can also be a great catalyst for bonding, leading you and your spouse into a time when you’ve never felt closer.
I encourage you to remember that marriage is a gift and after your relationship with God, is the most important relationship in your life. Even when your little one comes, keeping your marriage a priority is one of the most important things you can do.
Your Baby’s Future
What an incredible gift God has given you to lead, nurture, steward, and care for another human. This opportunity will provide you some of the sweetest and most cherished moments in your life! You can start carrying this blessing now with your prayers and care for your little one.
Prayer is and will continue to be one of the most important things you can do for your child. Prayer changes things. Prayer sets the table. Furthermore, your posture of prayer will stand out to your child one day.
Here are a few things you can be praying for; be sure to add your own!
Healthy pregnancy, delivery, and above all, child.
That their purpose on this earth would be clear to them and ordained for God’s Kingdom.
They would pursue godliness above all else.
Be confident in Philippians 1:6 and know that God will start a good work in your child and bring it to completion one day. That everything that will happen in your child’s life will have purpose; the good and the bad. God has designed your child to have great value and purpose in this world. Be a good, loving example of following God, serving others, and how to be a kind human. God will take care of the rest!